Sometimes there is this one thing you really want but you know better than anyone else you can’t have it and that is the worst moment of your life. You can’t change anything regardless of how hard you try to do so but giving it all up is crashing down your dreams and reasons to live.
It’s that empty moment when everything is torn apart and you are nothing but a shell enduring these days and nights waiting, hoping, wishing for a miracle.
A mircale that changes your destiny, something that could change the world for you. Flip if upside down and for once let you have what you always wanted.
You daydream it, lose your reality. Walking further and further away from that shell. Your soul lost in that gray space, it’s empty and quite yet chaotic and pressuring.
Slowly you get addicted to this room. You lie to yourself to fall even deeper. You believe it’s what you were born to do. Sit in a room, emotionless, often crying over this emptiness with thick walls surrounding you.
The walls get thicker and thicker. They press all that weight on you, slowly consuming the memories that kept you up.
Now all of those happy moments are sad. Sweet dreams turn into nightmares hunting you in your small space.
Your space is invaded by those walls. You can’t see them but they press your chest down crashing it into your heart.
You breath but it’s heavy.
Finally, you sit there thinking about the end. This is the only option you see. End it because you can’t endure it anymore.
But in that very moment, remind yourself that, 15 minutes later most of this feeling is gone. Go play a game, cry to yourself or do something to distract yourself.
Keep these in your head,
“You are not alone”
“You can do this”
“Little things matter”
Because the best gift to your sadness is your happiness.
Remember all those walls are transparent with flowers behind them, all you have to do is turn on the lights.
Today we announced some big updates to our Community Guidelines and what kind of content is permitted on Tumblr. Adult content will no longer be allowed here. While we do not judge anyone for their desire to post, engage with, or view this stuff, it is time for us to change our relationship with it.
We expect you may have some questions on how this will affect you, and we’re here to make sure those questions get answered.
When does the new policy take effect?
Our new Community Guidelines will go into effect on December 17, 2018.
Newly uploaded content flagged as adult will no longer be allowed on Tumblr. We’ll also begin flagging and removing existing adult content with the ultimate goal of removing as much of it as we can.
What is considered adult content?
Adult content primarily includes photos, videos, or GIFs that show real-life human genitals or female-presenting nipples, and any content—including photos, videos, GIFs and illustrations—that depicts sex acts.
What is still permitted?
Examples of exceptions that are still permitted are exposed female-presenting nipples in connection with breastfeeding, birth or after-birth moments, and health-related situations, such as post-mastectomy or gender confirmation surgery. Written content such as erotica, nudity related to political or newsworthy speech, and nudity found in art, such as sculptures and illustrations, are also stuff that can be freely posted on Tumblr.
What about Safe Mode?
Our new policy negates the need for Safe Mode so this feature will no longer exist. These new policies are the same regardless of your age. Read more here.
My content was flagged, but I don’t think it should be. What should I do?
If you feel that we have categorized your post incorrectly, you can appeal this decision with the form that was sent to you via email or use the button on the post in question. Please note that this process is only possible to complete on the web or with Tumblr app version 12.2 or higher.
Read more about how to review your content and appeal here.
What goes into classifying content as adult?
This work requires a mix of machine-learning classification and human moderation by our Trust & Safety team—the group of individuals who help moderate Tumblr. We’ve been expanding the team to handle the increased workload, and we will continue to expand as needed.
Computers are better than humans at scaling process—and we need them for that—but they’re not as good at making nuanced, contextual decisions. This is an evolving process for all of us, and we’re committed to getting this right. That’s why when you appeal a post we’ve marked as adult, it gets sent to a real, live human who will look it over with their real, live human eye(s).
Will I see any adult content on Tumblr after December 17, 2018?
Due to the technical challenges that come with moderation at scale you may continue to see some adult content. This is true for all types of content that might be in violation of our guidelines. At any given moment, millions of people are posting to Tumblr. To review everything and to get it right is complex, but we’re committed to continuously improving.
As always, if you see a post with adult content that you don’t want to see, you can report it directly to our Trust & Safety team. Learn about how to report content here.
What will happen to my adult content already on Tumblr?
Starting today, we will begin sending out email notices to members of the Tumblr community whose content has been flagged as adult. This email will provide a link to the post(s) in question and a form to appeal our decision if you think we have made a mistake. Starting on December 17, 2018, any post(s) that have been flagged will be reverted to a private setting viewable only by you. If you want to learn more about how to see those posts, please visit our Help Center.
You can also download the contents of your blog(s) before these policy changes take effect. Find out how here.
What if my blog (not to be confused with posts) was marked as “explicit” before December 17, 2018?
Blogs that have been either self-flagged or flagged by us as “explicit” per our old policy and before December 17, 2018 will still be overlaid with a content filter when viewing these blogs directly. While some of the content on these blogs may now be in violation of our policies and will be actioned accordingly, the blog owners may choose to post content that is within our policies in the future, so we’d like to provide that option. Users under 18 will still not be allowed to click through to see the content of these blogs. The avatars and headers for these blogs will also be reverted to the default settings.
You can check and see if your blog is marked as explicit per our old policy in your visibility settings. If you think your blog has been erroneously marked as explicit, please send an appeal here.
Will I get kicked off of Tumblr if I’ve uploaded adult content in the past?
We’re removing content, not people. However, those who repeatedly and deliberately post new content that violates our updated guidelines may have their account deactivated per our Terms of Service. If you feel you’ve been incorrectly suspended, you can appeal here.
What if I reblogged adult content?
The original poster of the content will be notified of its removal, and it will no longer be on your blog.
What if I have more “What if” questions?
We got you. You can review our updated Community Guidelines right over here. If you still haven’t found an answer to your question, you can ask our support team.
So, I’ve just watched a YouTube video and in the comments they were talking about “toxic” fans and “toxic” fandoms.
Someone mentioned how “toxic” fandoms shift and how at one point one fandom was considered “toxic” and a year later it was another. They also talked about how they suspect that in 2019 either NCTzen or Stay could become the next fandom being labelled as “toxic”.
Of course this is just one person’s opinion and nothing more but it made me reflect on some things:
You can’t keep a fandom clean of “toxic” fans since they can and will be found everywhere and in every fandom. However, I noticed from my own experience there’s certain fandoms that managed to stay on the down-low for as far as I’ve seen. Or at least, I haven’t seen the fandoms engage in fanwars or there had never been any big incident going on.
I guess it’s impossible to stay fully free from incidents but I hope we can manage to stay on the down-low and stay a loving fandom (both Stay & NCTzen ofc) throughout 2019 and the years to come.
And in general, I just wish all of us could spread more love in the upcoming year, no matter whether this love will be directed to your faves or another group, just spread that love and support.
There’s something that all kpop groups have in common and that all of us should be able to agree on and that is them being in an extremely hard and judgmental industry with very high expectations and beauty standards. All kpop groups and every single member has worked their butt off to get to the point where they are now (regardless of whether you like them or not) and I hope you all agree with me when I say all of them deserve the same amount of love and support since all of them do need it. However, of course I don’t mean to say you can’t have an ult group, I’m just trying to say it’s very unhealthy to make one group seem superior to the other or even worse, putting another group down.
Therefore, I hope Stays, NCTzen, Carats, Monbebes, Armies, exo-l, igot7, Reveluv, Blinks, Once, and literally any fandom can unite a bit more in the upcoming year and support and spread love upon everyone.
In the end we are all here because of one reason and that is, we love kpop, so why do we feel the need to fight?
Let’s stick together and hype all groups to the moon and back because they deserve that appreciation.
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